The Walks of Kulot


THOUGHTS OF KULOT: THE BIG TWO-FIVE
September 27, 2012, 3:55 am
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NOTE: This is a non-travel related post.

In just a few hours I will be turning a year older as I bid goodbye to a quarter of my life (hoping I will be living a hundred years). When I turned 20, I never wanted to get old because I felt my teenage years were the most exciting part of my life. But I was wrong because I realized life just gets better when you age – not to mention the many possibilities you could do with your life now that you’re in control. But then again, I still cringe at the thought that I will be turning a year older! It’s the BIG TWO-FIVE right in front of my face slapping me and telling me that there’s now a thin line to being young and being a young adult. Getting old is inevitable and I have no escape. Maybe older people were right in saying that age is just figures and it’s only a matter of how you look at it. Anyway, I hope this isn’t the horror of quarter-life trying to knock me down.

Right, maybe it’s how you perceive things and I think I am more than grateful for the BEST 25 years that has been. It’s been quite a journey but I am not yet half way through. It’s been a series of plains and uphill but nevertheless I am glad that I was able to reach life’s best summits so far. It wasn’t easy after all but I guess I am blessed to have come this far. So what have I learned so far? Let me share to you 25 life lessons I felt was valuable to me. This is a collection of lessons from the life experiences of someone turning 25 – some were overheard and some were borrowed but even so I think can be applied to anyone.

1. The things you learn in Kindergarten are valuable lessons when you get old.

– Simple things like saying “Thank You!”, “Good Morning!” and “Sorry” make a bigger impact when your older self continue to say and use these words properly. Remember how proud we were of our coloring activity when we were kids? We get 5 stars for coloring the sky green and the trees red but it felt like it was the best piece of art we’ve ever made. Lesson learned: You can be crappy at times but no one else can be proud of yourself but you.

2. Suddenly, the things you hate will mean a lot to you.

– I remember how I dreaded sleeping in the afternoon when I was a kid, but now how I wish I could do it every day. Sleeping is now a luxury.

3. Be delighted in simple things.

– Okay fine, I still dream of having all the latest Mac gadgets there is and travelling the world but as I grew older the simplest things make me the happiest. I take simple joys in opening the mailbox and finding out that I have a letter inside it, pulling out a P50 bill in my jeans’ pocket, riding the MRT with only a few passengers, buying something and the moment I pay for it I get a mark down, the moment I lose something and find out that it’s not missing and a lot more.

4. Make lists. Lots of them.

– Admit it, you can’t remember everything. Writing them down will help you organize your thoughts. It’s also the best feeling when you are able to check everything on your list.

5. “Do something today, that your future self will thank you for”

– I’ve read this somewhere and I think it’s good to be reminded that what you do now will have a major impact to your future self. Having said this, I think I must not forget to exercise at least 3 times a week.

6. An act of random kindness a day is good for the soul.

– Imagine making someone happy, you don’t just make that person happy but you’re making a difference in his/her life. A simple gesture can mean a lot – start with a smile. Remember that you can never go wrong in doing something good. It’s the only thing that you do that will have a lasting effect in your life.

7. What goes around, comes back around.

– I always believed in karma and this one never fails to come back without kicking someone else in the butt. Just hope that it won’t go after you next. But if you do good, karma isn’t selfish to reciprocate.

8. What other people think of you is none of your business.

– Everyone is entitled in making their own opinion. It’s their opinion anyway, not yours. What they think or say about you (most especially people who don’t know you best) is the least version of your best self. People who malign others are tarnished inside. Their blabbering makes them feel precious stones but in reality they are rusted metals ready to be thrown in junk. Feel sorry for them anyway.

This also goes to saying that other people’s misdemeanor is none of your business. Mind your own life and try to be an inspiration isntead.

9. Don’t complicate. Keep it Simple.

– The more you complicate things, the more stress you give yourself. Keep things plain and simple. People tend to comprehend things best when it’s said or done in a simple manner. Get out of clutter then you’ll have a better picture of things. Something related to this is the courage to say “No!” – it doesn’t mean you don’t care but it’s giving yourself a breather. Take a break, you deserve it.

10. To be hurt makes you say “Hell, Yeah! I am now an official human being!”

– It’s human to be hurt. Get your heartbroken, grieve the loss of someone, feel betrayed, get rejected or better yet feel despised. You’ll have lots of it and it’s better to experience one of these because it will make you sturdy as a solid rock. Someone tweeted: “The earlier you get hurt, the earlier you carry on with life.”

 11. Find something you love doing. Be passionate about it. Stick to it. Don’t quit. Everything else will follow.

– When I was in gradeschool, I was already fascinated with advertising. I enjoyed watching commercials more than the show. Told myself that I will take it up as a course in college. From then on, I knew Advertising was my passion. After college, I applied for several ad agencies but I didn’t make the cut because I felt I didn’t have enough experience. I was devastated but that didn’t stop me to pursue it. I already quit two jobs before I started working in an ad agency. My former boss even told me that maybe I should try something else and not advertising. That didn’t dampen my spirit but I took it as a challenge to be the best in what I do. Lesson learned: Your passion will haunt you, follow what it tells you to do. Doing what you love best is the best decision you’ll ever make.

12. Look forward to something every year. It doesn’t have to be your birthday.

– Every year, I look forward to the holiday season. I think it’s the most wonderful time of the year, isn’t it? Christmas carols everywhere, trinkets of lights on trees, the infectious energy of everyone on the streets, Simbang Gabi, Bibingka and Puto Bumbong, gift giving and simply the quality time with family and friends. This season is also an excuse to be child-like once again as you get giddy falling in line for an aginaldo.

  13. Thank the people who matter to you. Say I love you more often. BUT Say it when you mean it.

– When you show gratitude to someone you allow them to be a blessing to someone else’s life. Don’t cut the chain of gratefulness because it is infectious. This also goes to saying “I love you” more often most especially to your parents and loved ones.

14. Follow your gut feel. 90% of it is correct.

– I don’t know if I have a soothsayer tendency but my gut feel is true most of the time. Sounds weird but I think your gut feel is your invisible self trying to convince you to take action. Your gut feel makes you more adventurous in life. If you fail, don’t blame yourself. You’ll never know the answer if you did not try in the first place.

15. Fall in love

– But don’t fall too deep that you knock your head down. Love yourself first, then love responsibly. Or when things get worse, “Be Tanga Responsibly” (Team Manila)

16. Get Lost

– I enjoy getting lost. It’s an adventure. It’s a moment of self discovery. It makes you believe in the goodness of people. You appreciate the simplicity of life. You become a better listener. You find music in silence. You see things in a different perspective. You become human. You become a better person. For once, be astray and try to get lost.

17. Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer.

– Thinking about it I haven’t saved much to buy myself a condo or a car. I don’t have much to buy myself the latest gadgets and my other materialistic pursuits. All I have is this blog filled with photos and freakin’ long paragraphs! But I don’t regret because this blog is my most coveted investment. And looking back at every entry makes me feel rich…rich in memories and stories. When I grow old, I’ll tell my children to read my blog and hopefully they will be inspired to do the same.

18. Be proud of your race. Be the change you want to see.

– Love your country and believe in the goodness of its people. You might get discouraged at times but there’s a reason why you are a Filipino in the first place. Bashing your fellow countrymen is like stabbing yourself with a dagger. Be the change you want to see. “You might not be the light, but you can be the spark”

19. It’s the quality not the quantity

– As you get older, you realize that it’s not about the number of friends you have but the quality of friendship you have kept throughout the years. Keep these people and they will help you get through difficult moments in your life.

20. Step back and connect the dots.

– Most of the time we question why things happen in our life most especially if it were the trying times. But have you tried to step back and look at the dots? I’ve discovered that things happening in your life are all connected, dot by dot. Something MUST happen to pave way to something better. Try to step back and connect the dots and be surprised how things are connected.

21. Creativity isn’t only about art. It’s how you make ordinary things extraordinary.

– Do what’s more than the usual. It helps to undersell yourself first and deliver more than what’s expected from you.

 22. When all else fail, stick to your morals. If it doesn’t work then stick to your faith.

– Sometimes you just want to punch someone straight to his/her face. Compose yourself, breathe…breathe more. Plain and simple: if you know it’s against what you believe in don’t do it. But if that person is persistent in annoying you, stick to your faith and just pray for that person’s soul. Take note SOUL. You don’t want to punch someone who’s walking dead. =)

23. Grow old, but don’t let go of your youth.

– Young, wild and free. This is the main reason why I don’t want to get old because I am afraid that I might be a boring adult. I want to be updated. I still want to be hip and cool that my younger siblings would look up to me as a cool kuya (not douche cool, okay). Grow old but don’t lose the young energy and vibe in you! Remember it’s okay to be child-like but definitely not childish.

24. Your life is a film, choose your soundtrack wisely.

– That moment when you wish a song is playing as background music to your current situation. You have the power to choose which song is going to play next. What will you pick?

 25. The best is yet to come

– If it’s not happening don’t fret. If something did not materialize don’t lose hope. If you don’t get it the first time, try again. You will be surprised that something better is coming your way. If it isn’t happening yet, don’t be discouraged. Life is full of little treasure troves waiting to be discovered. The moment you get to appreciate the little things you’ll treat the grander things as blessings.

So where will the next 25 years and beyond take me? I don’t know yet but I am sure it will be a better ride this time.